CHASING THE WIND?

Posted on August 11, 2022 by atimetoshare.me

Do you feel like it’s Groundhog Day, every day? Are you going through the motions of living, without really living? I am stuck at the moment. Life does get in the way of our living from time to time. How do you cope when that happens?

King Solomon was a man of great wisdom. He had wealth beyond measure.  He could partake in anything that would give him enjoyment.  He had servants caring for him, more wives than he could count and a nation who looked up to and honored him.  He had access to everything in life and yet during his final days he said it was all meaningless.

There are days when I feel like all I’m doing is chasing the wind. I wake up, go through the same rituals and habits. I try to look for the good in my life and it’s all around me, yet there are times when it gets cloudy and there seems to be no answers to current problems. I find myself wallowing in the rut of sameness, but when something happens to shake me up – I’m not always prepared for it. I get frustrated. I worry. I fret. I cry myself to sleep at times. I often don’t know what to do.

Solomon said that there was nothing new under the sun.  Times change, but people have been struggling with the same issues since man fell into sin.  If our focus is only on this temporary span we call life, there really is no purpose.  What then is the part of life that gives it meaning?

There may be nothing new under heaven but imagine what’s in store for us when we get there.  God has promised us a place of complete peace – a place where there will be no sadness, no tears – an eternity of joy.  There may be nothing new under the sun, but all things are new under the Son. When we realize that God never changes, even though our circumstances are in a constant state of flux, He is the only One to turn to. He may not give you an answer right away, but you can bet that when He does answer it will be for the best result.

Lord, I ask that you become the center of my life.  You give me a reason to get up every day.  You motivate me in all my comings and goings.  You lift and encourage me.  You strengthen my soul with your Holy Spirit, and I am washed clean of all my sins through your Son, Jesus. Stay with me as I draw nearer to you. Amen!

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AGING WITH GRACE

Posted on August 10, 2022 by atimetoshare.me

As we grow older, we’ve developed so many layers that our skin naturally becomes thick and hardened.  Each day we encounter something that causes us to falter, to waiver, to hurt and to give up.  We build a shield of protection around ourselves to fight off the enemies of this world. By the time we’ve reached our senior years, we’re perceived as cranky, hard-lined, unbending and just plain negative.  Older folks often think they’ve earned the right to be this way.  Have we?

When things aren’t going as we planned, our natural inclination is to blame someone else – even God.  Why doesn’t He answer my prayers?  Isn’t He listening?  Why is He putting me through this?  God doesn’t want us to become grumpy old men and women, but He does create bumps and even major roadblocks in our lives to draw us closer to Him.  As we get older we should see that even more clearly.  Why do we naturally turn the tables and put the blame on Him instead of understanding that He has this?  He’s running the show.  He’s the director of the universe.

Instead of passing the buck and blaming God, we should be thanking Him for every difficulty we face.  Each minor hiccup along the way prepares us for the next one.  Each bump in the road will help us realize how God works for our good.  Each major life event will lead to another and finally have refined us for our place in heaven.  God is constantly re-working us.  Not because He didn’t do it right in the first place, but because He knows what our true potential is.

So, even though we build up a steel suit of armor and more layers than an onion, our hearts should remain focused on our Savior.  Think of what He endured for us.

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NATIONAL LAZY DAY

Posted on August 10, 2022 by atimetoshare.me

I don’t know – maybe it has something to do with the dog days of summer. Maybe it’s a reminder to slow down and enjoy the moment. It might even be a day dedicated to simply doing nothing and being accountable to no one. Whatever the case, I love this national holiday and I think I’m going to enjoy celebrating it.

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WHY PRAY?

Posted on August 9, 2022 by atimetoshare.me

I’ve never had too much of a problem writing down my thoughts. I guess this is the way I can express myself without actually speaking the words. As I grow older, the words I speak get garbled or I use the wrong ones. There are times when I can’t find the words – when my mind just won’t wrap around the thoughts intelligently or in a logical way. The same is true in my prayer life. There are times when the words pour out of me and other times when I just don’t know what to pray for anymore.

At those times I feel like I need someone to help me find the right words. God’s Word tells us, that even on those occasions He provides an intercessor for us. My words have meaning through the Holy Spirit because He knows my thoughts and my heart. God knows me inside and out. He certainly doesn’t need my prayers, but by praying, we have a way to communicate with Him. He loves it when we do that, because He is always willing to listen. He is our greatest friend in so many respects, but prayer allows us to praise and honor Him along with asking Him for help when we need it. Even when we can’t come up with the right words, He knows our hearts and minds better than we do.

Isn’t it great how God provides for every aspect of our lives – even the words we send to Him? Our God is an awesome God!

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AGING WITH A SENSE OF HUMOR

Posted on August 8, 2022 by atimetoshare.me

As you know, I turned eighty a couple months ago. I really feel this is a great accomplishment for me, but my genetic background shows that my DNA contains genes which qualify me to be a long liver. I’m not talking about the organ here, but most of the women in my history lived well into their 80s. I’ve even outlived a few of them, even though most of those early family members were pioneers who had to make fires out of animal dung. That alone would’ve \put me away a long time ago. We women of the 21st century have so many advantages compared to our ancestors. We live in a world that requires little physical labor – we’re pampered in many ways – our homes are often self-maintainable -we have jobs that bring in mucho bucks – we can go into politics – we can do just about anything a man can do, but I personally don’t care about that. The problems arise when we retire.

The world tells us these will be the best years of our lives. They fail to mention that you’ll be spending many hours at the doctor’s office or trying to move from place to place without the help of a cane or walker. By the time we retire, we are so tired, we’ve kind of lost our way. Aging is a state of mind. I believe that there is a reason for those of us who live as long as we do. Maybe it’s so we can be there for our spouse. It might be so that our children can see what they have to look forward to. The primary reason, I think, is so that we can grow in wisdom and share that with someone else before the mess things up by themselves.

I have chosen to live the rest of my days, doing something I love. I don’t want to get too attached, however, because it might just end in a flash. I’m sure many folks wonder why an old woman like me is still acting on stage. They might think it’s an ego trip for me. Maybe it is, but my philosophy is this – God gave me this life for a reason. If I can make someone happy through what I do, maybe that’s what I should do. In the process, I am making my own life a lot more enjoyable. Aging requires a great sense of humor. If you don’t continue to laugh at your failings or give in to feeling useless, you will never experience the joy of old age. Yes, there is joy in getting older. We have so much to share with the rest of the world. If only they would listen to us.

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WHERE DOES THE ROAD LEAD?

Posted on August 7, 2022 by atimetoshare.me
ART & POETRY BY KATHY BOECHER

Our walk each day is often filled with tangles, twists and turns,

We try to forge a clearer path, for safety our heart yearns,

Each fork can lead you to success, each branch can hide the way,

You struggle with the smallest things, you’re not sure what to say,

The road holds many stumbling blocks, you fall and then you rise,

The darkness of a late-night walk, can muddle up your eyes,

If you don’t follow all the signs, you may stray off the way,

You need someone to walk with you and hear the words you say,

It all becomes much clearer when we trust in the true God,

He shows the way and leads us home, wherever we may trod,

He lifts us when our legs grow tired, He calms our every fear,

He carries us when we can’t walk, He wipes away each tear,

The darkness may surround your steps, but He is always there,

To shed His light upon your way, to take away each care,

Put your faith in God, the Father, He’ll never let you down,

His Holy Spirit comforts you, His Son gives you a crown,

Eternity will be your prize, when this life is long gone,

Just trust in His sustaining love from dusk until the dawn.

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DREAMY VILLAGE

Posted on August 6, 2022 by atimetoshare.me
ART & POETRY BY PAUL & KATHY BOECHER©

No this isn’t the mystical little town of Brigadoon, the magical town filled with legend, love, tragedy and beautiful music. It.might be though.  This is a town just north of the great cities of St. Paul & Minneapolis, but it is reminiscent of a quaint village from many centuries ago. The fact that I love this piece of art, the musical “Brigadoon,” and the artist who painted this beauty inspired the words.

Where do you find contentment when all around seems lost,

In city streets so dimly lit, at an expensive cost,

In valleys green where water pours through rivers pure and clean,

In rivers deep, that wind and creep and keep the valley green,

In the darkness of the soul within, is that where you find peace,

In a sanctuary built of stone, where your problems you release,

Do you see it in the people that you greet most every day,

Is it in the quiet laughter of a child alone at play,

Is it in the calm serenity of music, art or dance,

Or does it come from looking at your love’s sweet, smiling glance,

Don’t search in darkest corners, you’ll never find it there,

The light that shines from heaven, will take away your care.

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LIFE BEGINS

Posted on August 3, 2022 by atimetoshare.me

Two join together as one and allow God to do His handiwork. Carefully He knits each cell together Into intricate patterns. He places vital organs into protected areas which otherwise might be vulnerable. He slowly determines the exact number of red and white blood cells to create a perfect balance.

He constructs the brain – one of the most complex means for learning – the original computer – storing information, calculating solutions, creating, imagining. It is the part of a human life which can determine the difference between a genius or an average Joe. It is also the mega center for everything that happens within the rest of the body. It is capable of warning us of impending danger

God threads veins and arteries throughout this new life to carry the necessary blood and oxygen to each of the vital organs. He patiently watches over this new creature as it grows in the protective membrane within its mother. Within this place tiny digits form into fingers and toes. Soft fuzz grows on little heads. Bones grow stronger. Eyelashes and brows are brushed onto the delicate face. Nourishment for this sweet child is carried to him in just the right amount to satisfy hunger. Elements of both parents are integrated into the masterpiece through the genetic design of God.

At just the right moment, this infant finds its way out of its protected environment into the waiting arms of his mother. There are those who cry out to protect the whales – save the planet – go green, but think nothing about taking the life of an unborn child

Life is precious. Especially human life. It is God’s creation.

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HEAT WAVE

Posted on August 2, 2022 by atimetoshare.me

When temperatures hit the 90s and the dew point is over sixty, we Minnesotans have a remedy for that. The Land of Ten Thousand Lakes beckons to those in search of refreshment from the summer sun and the disgusting sweat it causes. You have your choice of swimming holes here. Some choose to go to the cabin and spend the summer with the flies and mosquitos, while others choose a backyard pool and the luxury of air-conditioning. Stepping on pebbles and hot sand can be magic to some, while a sun umbrella, sunscreen and a mint julep appeal to others. Whatever your choice, you have a lot of options in my state.

For me, the city girl, I prefer staying at home in a nicely air-conditioned house. With allergies and asthma, it makes more sense for me to do this, but my husband was born to be at the lake. Maybe it’s because he spent much of his youth at his grandparents’ summer home. He developed a beautiful tan and muscles as he crewed on sail boats of the wealthy neighbors. He loved tooling around in his little fishing boat with a motor and enjoyed all the water sports available to him. The adventurer in him surfaced at an early age. I, on the other hand, disliked the idea of jumping in a lake or river filled with fish and other assorted creatures. I preferred the local swimming pool, but rarely went in the water, because I felt like a blimp in a swimsuit.

Years have passed since our early youth, but we seem to have gotten used to some of our old habits. I’m still pretty much a homebody and Paul would prefer to be outside in a natural setting. It’s not that I don’t enjoy the beauty of God’s creation. I simply can’t breathe when I’m in it. So, we make compromises. After almost 58 years of marriage, you learn to do that. When the air is fresh, and the temp is below 80, I agree to partake of the natural beauty. When the temp goes above that, I stay inside, while he warms up outside. Part of compromise is deciding what works for all involved parties.


As this is the height of our summer season, I will probably spend most of the month indoors or inside of an air-conditioned car. Paul will most likely be outside enjoying the sound of birds chirping or jackhammers pounding, while I sip my mint julep. I can still enjoy the wildlife by looking out the window. Our neighborhood is full of it. So go jump in the lake – or NOT,,

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PENQUINS TAKE FLIGHT

Posted on August 1, 2022 by atimetoshare.me
CAST Of “BEAUTY & THE BEAST” – PERFORMED BY THE PENGUINS OF NORTHERN STARZ PERFORMING ARTS CENTER THIS PAST WEEKEND

Paul and I had the privilege of attending this wonderful show yesterday with our son, daughter & family. We have been limited in our venturing out this year, so it was an extra special treat. Our granddaughter has served as a mentor in this program since it began five years ago. This is a nationwide program, but the only one in Minnesota at this time. It is designed to give children with special needs an opportunity to spread their wings and fly. The Penguin Project is designed to teach these special kids that they are capable of more than they think they can do. They can fly, unlike real penguins, when given the opportunity to do so. Each child is assigned a mentor to work with during the rehearsal process and they work hand in hand to accomplish that flight. Soar the do, as they reach for the stars and heights, they never dreamed possible.

The tale as old as time – a story of love, compassion, looking beyond the outer shell and into the heart was amazing. I can’t think of another word to describe it, because it truly was. Kids who might never have had a chance to experience an on-stage performance, were delightful to watch in costumes that matched all the splendor of the lighting and scenery. Dedicated staff continue to believe in this project and will for many years to come. Tears welled in my eyes as my heart overflowed with emotional response. Each of the mentors appeared onstage with their penguin. Most of them hid behind them or appeared to be part of the scenery, because they were simply there to assist if necessary. The relationships that develop from this program are awesome too. Friendships that will last forever. I am proud to say that being involved in the Penguin Project has stirred my granddaughter’s desire to go into special education.

I am so proud of this little theatre. It’s kind of like the mouse that roared. It is a non-profit organization. In its short existence, it has become a wonderful source for all ages (even old ones like me) to enjoy theatre, perform, volunteer, build community, learn, teach and be a part of the performing arts. We all need to spread our wings at some point in this lifetime. Thank you, Northern Starz Center for Performing Arts for making it possible for so many.

“Once you have tasted flight, you will forever walk the earth with your eyes turned skyward, for there you have been, and there you will always long to return.”
― Leonardo da Vinci

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POSITIVE OR NEGATIVE?

Posted on July 29, 2022 by atimetoshare.me

There are days, when we really have to look hard for things that make us feel good about ourselves, our lives, our futures or our past.  Those are the hardest days to get through, because we often find ourselves dwelling on the negative.  Add to that all the surrounding adverse news, political rhetoric and aches and pains of aging and you have a formula for total depression.  Who wants to live like that?  Wallowing in self-pity and hopelessness certainly isn’t my idea of a good time.

We have a natural tendency to accentuate the negative rather than doing the opposite. Something suspicious shows up on an MRI and we assume we have cancer, before it’s even diagnosed. We plant the seeds of that notion in our brains and there is no room for positive thinking. A loved one has an illness that seems to never find a solution. How do you remain positive in those situations? A mass shooting occurs, and we immediately blame the weapon rather than the perpetrator. Or children die and we wonder where God is. The economy has taken a dive and all your investments are taking a hit. Why is this happening? We blame God. We blame others. We blame things. How can we remain positive during times like this?

There will be struggles every day, but there will also be little glimmers of hope. Take those moments and dwell on them rather than looking at the yuck. Eventually they will outshine our negative thinking. God has a plan for every life He’s placed on this planet. He is consistently in control. Our troubles are nothing to Him. He can slay any of the dragons that tempt us or depress us. He has already conquered the devil, who is now serving an eternal sentence in the depths of hell. God loves us and wants the very best for us and all we need do is trust in His omnipotence. Being positive doesn’t mean we don’t care about the challenges. It doesn’t mean we will magically feel better or look at our struggles as tests of strength. Instead, we are focusing on what God has already done for us. His love endures forever.

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HUMP DAY HUMOR

Posted on July 27, 2022 by atimetoshare.me

Wednesdays have been labeled, “Hump Day” since the 1950s. The middle day of the work week gives the employee hope for an end of it, and the promise of a weekend filled with rest and recreation. Unfortunately, the weekend is also filled with household chores and often backbreaking hard work. So, what’s funny about hump day? Put a camel to work and you have the answer. Add a laughing child and you have the recipe for a chuckle or two.

Our world is too full of pain, trials, misunderstandings, hatred, fear and every other negative you can imagine.  So much energy is spent on tragedy that there’s barely any time for a good belly laugh.  When we get mired in the humdrum of everyday living, no amount of botox is going to lift that face.

If you’re going through a financial crisis, feelings of depression, hopelessness, health issues – the last thing you’re going to do is laugh about it.  God doesn’t want us to be downhearted.  He loves us and wants to see our joy, even in times of trouble. Just how do you do that?  First of all, it’s a great idea to start hanging out with positive people – folks who share your faith and know what God has done for them.  Then try to get your mind off of your own problems by doing something useful, productive, creative or just plain fun.  It doesn’t hurt if it benefits someone else either.

Laughter has proven to be good medicine throughout the ages.  Doctors realize the benefits too.  Sometimes you have to search for the humor in things. While working with a friend, my husband expressed concern that his fellow worker was wearing flip flops.  The guy assured him they were steel toed so not to worry.  That set the tone for the work to be done.

There are times when we have to take things seriously, but there is never a time when we should lose our sense of humor.  By maintaining it, we can wash the muck off the windshield of life and get a much better perspective – and we can have fun while doing it.

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WHAT’S YOUR REALITY?

Posted on July 25, 2022 by atimetoshare.me

I think it’s time for a reality show that actually shows normal people, living ordinary lives, going through difficulties, joys, fun times, death, pain, grief. Thus it would be the life of moi and probably a lot of other people out there. Most of us like to think we’re living in the real world, but are we and what exactly is the real world anyway?

If you measure yourself by social media standards, the perfect family has parents that look like they came off the cover of a fashion magazine. The kids are meticulously dressed and well behaved. The dog is a purebred and the house they live in is more of the same kind of perfection. The meals they eat are never fails. Their car or cars are the newest on the block.

The truth is that this so-called “reality” is probably laced with huge credit card debt, a dysfunctional family that rarely communicates except by text and most of their meals are consumed at fast food restaurants. Our lives aren’t Pinterest perfect. We suffer – we get frustrated – we lose our temper – we experience all sorts of things that people don’t want to know about, but who wants to see real reality? We instead look for the glamourous, the intelligent, the perfect, the outwardly successful to mold our own identity and usually wind up sadly unsuccessful.

So how does one get through life with those kinds of expectations? Living within our means – setting a moral base for our children – putting away technology and talking together – eat meals together whenever possible – communicate as you drive to sporting events or other activities. In other words, be a family. Watching others and trying to imitate them is as old as time, but we are not all alike. Look to God’s reality for an example. His Word tells us to love each other as we love ourselves. We should encourage each other through our prayers and help. We should be willing to lay down our lives for our friends. When we’re part of God’s family, we’re no longer like those in the world. His spirit now lives in us and we are forever changed.

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LEAN ON HIM!

Posted on July 24, 2022 by atimetoshare.me

When those we love are hurting physically or emotionally, it’s hard to sit back and do nothing. We want to fix things and make them better. Unfortunately, it isn’t always possible for us to do that. We often find it difficult to turn things over to God, because we believe we can handle it ourselves.

God has given us a solution for any problem that comes our way. He has taken on all our problems through Jesus’ death on the cross. In that single most important act of kindness Jesus took away the sin of the world. This is great news for aching hearts. When we are loaded with baggage that causes us to doubt God’s presence, He has promised to take that load from us. He tells those who are burdened and heavy laden to come to Him, and He will provide rest. When things seem hopeless and like God isn’t listening, take it to the Lord in prayer.

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BIG GOD, LITTLE ME

Posted on July 23, 2022 by atimetoshare.me
ART & POETRY BY PAUL & KATHY BOECHER

I stand in Your presence my God. Your strength surpasses the skies,

I can’t comprehend an ant such as me could possibly gaze in Your eyes,

I’m created in Your image, yet sin has caused a great distance,

To wheedle its way to my soul, to break my very existence.

When it seems the world is crashing, when the troubles will not subside,

You care for a worm such as me, and with me You’ll always abide,

I don’t understand Your passion, or Your love for this sin filled heart,

Your love is unconditional, You’ve bestowed me with a fresh start.

However can I repay You, for all that You’ve given to me,

You loved me, a lowly sinner, by giving Your Son I’m now free,

The darkness of night will not haunt, the state of the world holds no fear,

In your presence I’m forgiven, in Your arms You hold me near.

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YOU ARE VALUED

Posted on July 22, 2022 by atimetoshare.me

In this final installment about self-worth, it’s important for us to look at Satan and his lies. He would have us believe that we are not worthy of God’s attention. He sneaks into our soul and creates doubt and fear. He whispers in our ear that we are unworthy to stand in the presence of God. He tempts us by making us feel that we have no value to God. He makes us believe that we’re not good enough – that we don’t do enough good works – that we will never measure up to God’s expectations., We have the weapon that Jesus used when He was tempted by the devil in the wilderness. Before His ministry even began, Jesus spent 40 days in fasting and prayer to prepare himself for His earthly mission. He was weak from lack of food and water. He was exhausted both physically and emotionally. It was the perfect time for His humanity to be tested and the devil wasted no time in taking advantage of the situation. He even quoted the scriptures to capture the mind of Jesus. Jesus came right back at Him, using the Holy Word of God as His defense.

We have that same tool available to us as we face each day. Jesus was fully man, but He was also fully God – another of those difficult tenets to understand. Yet, He made sure that the Word of God was inspired into the minds and pens of men through the Holy Spirit, so that we’d have it available to us in the same way.

When you’re struggling with your identity, self-worth and your value, turn to the Bible for assurance that you are precious to God. Jesus overcame the temptation of the devil by using scripture. We can do so as well. Jesus also conquered the devil and all his minions when He suffered and died on our behalf – He then rose from the dead and gave us access to eternal life with Him. As soon as we let go of that gift, we are giving in to Satan’s lies. He has nothing of value to offer us. He simply wants to win our souls away from God so that he’s not alone in his misery. Look instead to the One who gave His life for YOU. He has a place prepared in heaven, just for YOU. YOU matter to those YOU meet during your life, but more importantly, YOU matter to the King of Creation who has made us heirs to eternal life. Never forget that YOU are loved by GOD.

“But they who wait for the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles; they shall run and not be weary; they shall walk and not faint.” Isaiah 40:31

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IN THE IMAGE OF GOD

Posted on July 21, 2022 by atimetoshare.me
Our relationship with God will define our relationship with others. We were in fact created in His image.

Then God said, “Let us make man in our image, after our likeness. And let them have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over the livestock and over all the earth and over every creeping thing that creeps on the earth.” So God created man in his own image,
in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them. Genesis 1:26-27

When man and woman were created by God, they were made in the image of God. Therefore, they had a free will – the ability to choose – to use their intellect to make wise choices or bad ones. How they used those gifts, turned their relationship with God into a vast expanse. The fellowship they shared was cracked and broken. They needed a Savior to rescue them and future generations. When the Bible tells us that we were created in the image of God, He says, “Let US make man . . .” In that singular word, God is defining the Trinity – Father, Son and Holy Spirit.

We can’t begin to comprehend three persons in one being, but God is just that. His character, His personality, His image is amazing and without flaw. You and I were created in that image. Our inherited sin and the sins we continue to do, have made the divide grow even bigger. Since the fall of man, God has fulfilled His promise to us, by sending His only Son to become one of us – to experience life as we know it – to be our Brother and our Master – to shepherd us through the highs and lows of living. When He suffered and died a humiliating, undeserved death, He carried all of our sins to the cross and ultimately to the grave. When He overcame death by rising from the tomb and showing Himself to many, He proved His divine nature. We are redeemed children of God, because of God’s great love for us.

To be placed in that position is a gift none of us deserves, but there is no greater love than that of our God. He loves us so much. He buried our sins by giving His own life for us. Another one of those impossible things to believe. However, He even provided for our faith in Him, by sending His Holy Spirit to breathe it into us. He gave us His Holy Words in the Bible – inspired by that same Spirit. I can’t understand how this came to be, but I do understand His amazing grace and how it has brought my sin filled soul back into fellowship with Him. We all have that gift available to us. It’s free. It’s not dependent on our good works and it is a perfect example of unconditional love.

Dear God, You have given us the gift of life, even when we don’t deserve it. Death no longer has dominion over us. We can be assured of our future after death, because of your great love for your creation. Help us to thank you for that gift by reaching out to others. Help us to serve you in any way we can. Our good deeds won’t save us, but they will demonstrate the love you first showed to us. Help us to remember how much you love us and teach us how to return that love. Amen!

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HOW DO YOU IDENTIFY YOURSELF?

Posted on July 20, 2022 by atimetoshare.me

In continuing this series on self-esteem, there’s something to address that most of us don’t think about when it comes to our value. As Christians, we’re expected to live with humility – not focusing on the good things we do – placing others before ourselves. So, when it comes time to write a resume’ for a job or a short bio on what we’ve achieved, we become stymied. Not because we don’t have things in our lives to be proud of, but because we don’t want to appear as if we’re boasting.

The church I grew up with was one that scared the bejeebers out of me. Our elderly pastor would rise the steps to the pulpit of our beautiful, Gothic architectural designed church. With each step, I could feel my heart begin to pound, because I knew the words he had planned for the day, were designed just for me. By the time he started talking, I knew I was destined to an eternity in hell. The final sentence would carry the quiet proclamation that by the grace of God I was saved. I rarely heard that part of the sermon, so most of my early life was spent feeling like I didn’t have a chance for salvation. Unfortunately, those early events in life can actually shape our relationship with our Heavenly Father. It took years before I realized what grace was all about. I needed God’s unconditional love, because I didn’t think I was worthy of anything.

Is it wrong to toot our own horn? Should we be quiet about our accomplishments? The world tells us to use our successes to produce more success. In the Broadway show, “How to Succeed in Business Without Trying,” the hero of the story made his way to the top by doing just that. It doesn’t take much skill to lie about yourself. It certainly seems to be the way to hit the top of the ladder but is that really how we want to live?

God has created each life to be unique and special. Each of us has a purpose. Each of us is part of the body of Christ. When one piece of that giant puzzle leaves the body, it doesn’t function the way it should. We’re all part of something greater than us, which makes us necessary. If you think you’re not important remember that fact. The things you’ve accomplished will continue to be blessed by God, when you realize that He’s the One responsible for those achievements. Don’t forget to thank Him for that.

I am but a speck – a dot – an insignificant piece of the puzzle.
My presence on this planet is nothing in comparison to others.
I will be remembered for no great accomplishments in the world’s eyes –
no wondrous deeds of charity towards my fellow man.
My life, though inconsequential, holds value beyond compare.
My riches consist of God’s everlasting love – Jesus’ forgiveness and the presence of the Holy Spirit within my heart. I would say I have it all.

Kathy Boecher

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HOW DID I GET LIKE THIS?

Posted on July 19, 2022 by atimetoshare.me

The child in me was already forming information about myself before I even knew who I was or how I fit into this world. Many times, we blame our current situation on those who influenced us as children. When you’re growing up, it’s hard to differentiate the truth from what is expected of you and how you react to others. In the early days of Freud and his followers, the family had the most influence on a child’s behavior and how it carried through to adulthood. All the negative vibes that come from family members can affect our behavior, but we are individuals as well. We have a singular mind and a unique path to follow. If we allow our circumstances to swallow us up and spit us out, we are giving in to those outside influences. It really doesn’t have to be that way.

As we grow into teenagers, our world is often controlled by others. We want to be like them. We want to fit in and often make stupid mistakes because of it. If we don’t fit the current pattern, we become subject to bullying, name calling and teasing. This can lead us down a path of no return if we allow it to. Or we can rise above it and look deep inside ourselves to find our true self. We then can use that to help those who are the victims of bullying, hate, and rage. Jesus was a perfect example of the perfect friend. He didn’t ignore the underdog. He lifted people up with His words. He encouraged and gave hope to the hopeless. These years of growing up can be brutal to a person’s self-esteem, but it doesn’t have to be that way.

When we reach adulthood, we are in a war against all kinds of temptations. We strive for success. We struggle to climb the ladder. We want to be like our neighbors. We look for material things to satisfy ourselves and often those things become the center of our lives. Instead of focusing on the One who provides those things, we tend to follow the crowd. We might step on another’s toes to get to the top. Our desire for more can leave us not appreciating the things we already have. We can give in to the call of the world, but it doesn’t have to be that way.

As we grow old, we see things that we didn’t see when we were younger. We realize that we can’t do what we once did. Our minds still feel like they’re 25 and our bodies are crying out to us to slow down. Physically we are becoming limited. Notice, I didn’t say useless. As long as there is breath in us, we have the capability to live. We may succumb to our withering bodies, but we still have purpose on this planet. We could let the negativity drown our creativity, our wisdom and our health, but it doesn’t have to be that way.

When I was going through a time of questioning my value and felt unworthy, a friend referred me to Psalm 139. The entire Psalm is designed to show us what our true value is. When you have time, read the entire chapter. The fact that we have been known by God, even before our conception is mind boggling, but so comforting. He has been with us all the way in our journey. He will never leave us. He loved us before we loved Him. His love has no strings attached. That alone should give you a reason to like yourself.

PSALM 139:13-15 “For you formed my inward parts;
    you knitted me together in my mother’s womb.
I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made.
Wonderful are your works;
    my soul knows it very well.  My frame was not hidden from you,
when I was being made in secret,
    intricately woven in the depths of the earth.”

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NEVER UNDERESTIMATE YOUR WORTH

Posted on July 18, 2022 by atimetoshare.me

There are so many times in life that we feel inadequate or unintelligent. I could tell you that everyone goes through these feelings, but that isn’t going to solve the problem of a poor self-image. I guess time will heal some of the old wounds from our youth, and we’ll overcome them, allowing us to continue to pursue our dreams. When our goals are beyond our capability, we often set ourselves up for failure. When our own expectations exceed our abilities, we also set ourselves up for a fall. Each time we try, and fail is like adding another scar or wound that won’t easily heal. Eventually those scars become constant reminders of fails in our journey and drive us deeper into depression.

When we compare ourselves to others, the same thing happens. We’re setting our goals outside of our abilities and that doesn’t always lead to success. If we consider ourselves as unique individuals, we have a much better chance of living up to our expectations. Think of it this way – God, the Creator of all things made you. You are not like everyone else. You have been specifically designed with talents, abilities, characteristics which will bring something very unique to the table. You have so much to offer. The things within you have no limit when you accept that fact. God doesn’t make mistakes. People do.

This week, I’m taking a look at self-worth. For many, many years I struggled with this issue. I never felt up to par in whatever I tried to achieve. I considered myself a insignificant worker ant in the colony. I could do the grunt work, but never felt capable enough to do the creative, the intellectual or the spiritual work God had built into me. For a long time, my self-worth was at a low point. Until I realized how much God truly loves me, I wasn’t capable of loving myself.

Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.”

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