THE GRADUATE

As I sat there, alongside my husband, my eldest daughter, her husband and youngest son in the warm South Carolina son, I watched as others entered the stadium, filled with anticipation and excitement.  Each of them had a connection to one of the students graduating that day.  As the faculty entered with their various hats and cords of specific honor, I was impressed with the diversity of people – the differences in ages – and I was amazed by the combined wisdom of these intelligent professors.

I’d promised myself I wouldn’t cry.  Why do we do that, when we know tears of joy are inevitable?  Do we need permission to shed those droplets of saline?  I knew I couldn’t keep such a promise, so as the students paraded across the stage to receive their diplomas, I needed a box of Kleenex.  I kept thinking of my now grown grandson, whom I held in my arms on the day he was born.  Being a grandmother was one of the most rewarding of my existence.  Watching him grow, day by day, not only in height, but in a quiet wisdom of his own.

I remembered the days he’d spend with us as a baby.  I had the opportunity to see him shine on the stage and learn to think outside the box, without losing track of the truth.  We watched him grow in knowledge, attending school with the same kids he first met in kindergarten.  We saw a boy emerge into one who enjoyed consistency in his life.  He wasn’t the least bit happy when his mom painted his room.  His dedication to the Lord was evident by his constant reading of the Bible.  He couldn’t seem to get enough of God’s Word.

When the keynote speaker spoke of the truth of success, another flood of saline poured down my cheeks.  I knew this young man had learned early on his life, the importance of living with God as his guide.  He was well aware that all success comes from God and that if we trust in Him, we will truly succeed.

My left side was turning red, when the commencement ended.  I would have to work on the right side another day.  In the meantime, I was loaded with pride for our grandson being the first to complete a college education.

Being a parent is filled with sacrifice for our children.  There’s tuition to worry about, clothing, housing and so much more – wanting to be sure your child stays on the straight path, worrying if they aren’t home on time, waiting for a telephone call that doesn’t come.  It’s so much easier being a grandparent.  You can bathe in the glow of the warm sun, take in the action without worry, cry if you want to, and bust your buttons with the feeling of pride for the actions of your children and grandchildren.

And thus ended the main purpose of our trip.  We would leave the following day for the arduous journey home, knowing that our Lord continues to bless our children.

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HOW DO YOU STACK UP?

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Having just returned from our grandson’s graduation celebration, we were happy to discover he already has a “job.”  It’s just a taste of what he will do in his lifetime, but nonetheless he will be learning some great skills and gaining practical knowledge.  It got me thinking about my first experience getting a “real” job.

I’d just finished my two year college stint in business and was ready to dive into a profession I knew very little about.  My first interview landed me a full time job with an advertising agency.  At that time, advertising was a much different business than it is today – think the TV show, “Madman.”  In my case, however, this was an old established agency, where all three of my bosses were approaching retirement and pretty much worn out from all those three martini lunches.

I got the job, because of my ability to take shorthand. However I had a hard time deciphering my own writing.  When actually put to the test, I found myself asking my boss to give me the exact words again, so I would type it accurately.  Like I said, these bosses were old and I was 20.  After enduring my inability for about a month, they switched to a Dictaphone.  Talk about old technology, right?  Still, they were willing to accommodate me for my shortcomings.  I learned from then on to respect my employers, even when I didn’t  believe they deserved it.

My career in the advertising biz ended when the company went bankrupt – giving me a foreshadowing of how fickle the business world can be.  One day you’re on top and the next, you’re just scraping by.  Jobs came and went, but when we started planning our family, I was about to discover that I was completely unqualified for what lay ahead. No one has ever written a handbook which describes what will be required of you as a parent.  Most of what you do is like flying on a wing and a prayer.  Every chapter is different for each individual.

Someone once wrote a list of qualifications for motherhood.  I can think of at least ten necessary requirements:

  • CHEF
  • NURSE
  • LAUNDRESS
  • HOUSEKEEPER
  • TEACHER
  • ENCOURAGER
  • SPIRITUAL GUIDE
  • PRAYER WARRIOR
  • CHAUFFEUR
  • DAY PLANNER

And that doesn’t even begin to cover all the side jobs that occur along the way.  You will be faced with an unending loss of socks in the washing machine, dirty dishes in the sink, dust collecting in more places than under the bed or unexpected guests – like snakes, frogs, baby ducks and grasshoppers.  You’ll scrub out the grass stains; bandage scuffed knee; spend more time in the ER than you thought you would; wash graffiti off the walls; wear clothes that require a built in burp cloth.  You’ll make provide balanced meals – unless you pass McDonalds on the way home.

You’ll drive them to soccer practice, dance classes, basketball games in a blizzard, art and drama classes.  All of this you do, knowing that your car may not make it to the next stop sign.  You make sure they go to Sunday school and church, even if you spend more time in nursery, reprimanding them.  You know that somewhere along the line, the Holy Spirit is working in those sweet little minds.

You struggle to save enough to send them to college – to clothe them – to insure them.  You teach them to drive and pray that you’ve done the right thing by giving them the car keys.  You learn to trust, believe and listen to them – which is probably some of the hardest stuff you will do as a parent.

This is one of the most important jobs we can do in this world. We’re responsible for what happens to society in the future, by building the kind of children who will eventually lead.

Never underestimate the job of Motherhood.  It is a blessed gift from God.  It will give you satisfaction beyond expectation.  It is the only job that lasts for a lifetime, with no salary, but the benefits are amazing.  Whether you’re a single mom, struggling to make ends meet – a mom in an abusive situation – one who didn’t have the benefit of a good mother – a woman who is longing to become a mom without success – one who has lost a child to death or addiction – or one who wonders how she ever got through it – God will bless you through this experience.  Even in the toughest times, He will be at your side through the process.  He knows what parenting is all about, because He had a Son that changed the world.

 

 

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THOUGHT FOR TODAY

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WE ARE NEVER ALONE!

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LET ME SHOW YOU SOME PHOTOS

 

When on vacation, I’ve become the self appointed photographer.  We no longer carry those bulky, fancy cameras with special lenses.  Now we opt for our cell phones.  Who knew a tiny device like that could take good photos?  Most of the shots I got were taken in the car and many became nothing more than a giant blur as we sped through the country, but we’re now at the point in our journey where pictures are worth a thousand words.

“VACATION” is defined as a leave of absence from a regular occupation, or a specific trip or journey, usually for the purpose of recreation or tourism.  In other words, it’s a time to hit the road and enjoy some free time.  I got to actually sleep in until 9 AM, which is something I never get to do in real life.  Our final leg to South Carolina, left me tired, cranky, yet eager to be with the family that moved away from Minnesota four years ago.  At that time I was sure we’d never get together again because of the distance, but I was wrong. As we pulled into the driveway of the welcoming landscaping and beautiful spring colors, I felt as though we were coming home.

The trip was intended for us to attend our eldest grandson’s graduation, but we also used the time to renew our relationship with family and enjoy some time away from the normality of our lives.  We had the opportunity to visit Jordan’s campus at North Greenville University – a Christian college where he’d spent the past four years studying. The school is set within a backdrop of mountains, surrounded by blooming trees and pristine skies.

The prayer chapel was especially impressive, with its stained glass window and waterfall trickling over lovely plantings. Prayer rails were installed and students were allowed to leave their special written prayers on the rails for others to pray for as well.  Post it notes were attached to some of them.  It was indeed a place where the Holy Spirit dwelt.  His love for these students was apparent in their prayers.31500358_10204291512205007_304842102766829568_n

Of course we didn’t get to see the entire campus – old legs and bodies wouldn’t allow for that – but we did see that Jordan’s school career had been blessed with the presence of His Savior, throughout his life.  We also got a peak at the collection of Bibles and artifacts from long ago and far away places.

The day didn’t end there.  Off we went to Clemson University, where Freshman grandson, Josh is finishing his first year of college.  We met Josh at the ice cream shop, which is managed by students.  They also make the ice cream and waffle cones.  This is a much larger campus, so our tour consisted of a drive through it.  The only picture that I managed to take is of the stadium where the famous Clemson Tigers and their fans gather during football season.  There were massive dorms and buildings housing classrooms, labs, libraries, with so much brain food, it was difficult to comprehend.

The day was topped off with a trip to one of many barbecue restaurants along the way. It actually reminded me of the Whistle Stop Cafe from “Fried Green Tomatoes.”  This one was called the Smokin’ Pig and it was finger licking yummy.  It was good to know that Big George wasn’t cooking that day.

Pictures can be a wonderful way to record a trip or a special occasion, but the memories we create in the recesses of our mind will last forever.  I pray that I can hang on to those memories forever.

 

 

 

 

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JULIE’S FRIDAY FUNNY

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YOU’RE NEVER TOO OLD …

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Shriveled skin with no elasticity,

Still sparkling eyes embedded in a sea of flab,

Bags and creases uncommonly placed between,

Hair coming from places it has never before been,

Lack of hair in other areas,

Creaking bones, fragile joints,

Sagging, thin, easily bruised flesh,

Strength depleted, endurance gone,

Leaving no room for laughter,

No joy in the little things,

But still life remains in this aging body,

Now its time to turn that unseemly frown,

Upside down,

Laugh, darn you, laugh,

Show those empty spaces in your smile,

Be proud of the lines in your face,

They are tracks of all your life experiences,

Consider your aging body as a vessel of wisdom,

Rather than a tired, worn out, useless mass of flesh,

The whole experience of aging,

Is really quite hilarious.

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ARE WE THERE YET, OR KATHY’S MELTDOWN

We rose early the next morning, packed our belongings and said our goodbyes.  It’s always hard to say goodbye to those whom you only get to see once or twice a year, but each year it becomes harder, because you secretly wonder if it will be the last one.

The King of the Road, was ready to hit the road and eager to get to our next destination – the home of our eldest child in S. Carolina.  It would be another day of driving through beautiful mountains, lush landscapes, color that I hadn’t observed at home in more than six months.  This trip would take about half the time we had driven each day so far, yet when you’re anxious to get somewhere, it always seems to take longer.  We’d talked about stopping at a few sites on the way, but a couple of gas and potty stops were the only allowances.  The possibility of stopping for lunch or an ice cream cone was mentioned, but never happened.

We had lots of snacky things to keep us from starving to death, but it would’ve been nice to stop, stretch our legs and take in a monument or two.  In the back of my head, I had visions of this mad man driving through this beautiful territory on a quest of sorts.  My visions turned him into a monster behind the wheel and feelings of impatience turned into a full blown panic attack.

It was about 3:30, or was it 4:30?  I had lost track of the time zones.  It was about an hour to our final destination.  I knew no one would be home yet to greet us, but the plan was to press on until we got there.  Maybe we’d stop for a bite to eat before getting there.

I remembered a long ago family vacation.  We were socked in with fog on the Trail to the Sun out west.  The fleeting image of Mt. Rushmore had previously been hidden in the mist.  The ride to the sun was engulfed in the murkiness of clouds.  It undoubtedly was a good thing, since I’m terrifited of heights, but our fearless road warrior pressed on.  His determination to reach the west coast and view the ocean pushed him forward.  The view of the ocean was eventually reached, but also unseen because of the limited visibility.

There’s something kind of scary about a man behind the wheel.  It seems they believe they are the only ones who know how to drive and that everyone else on the road is an idiot.  Maybe it has something to do with being the inside of a semi-sandwich that motivates.  Maybe it’s the eagerness to reach the destination.  Whatever it is, I began having visions of that old family vacation and wondering if we’d ever get there.  I needed to stretch – I needed some water – I wanted to stop for a real meal, rather than a bag of potato chips.  I was needy to the max and my needs were being overlooked, or so it seemed in my mind.  It was all about ME!

I’d lost track of the TripTik and the roads were meshing together at a rapid rate of speed. The map said we had another 75 miles to go before the next exit and I was pretty sure I could take it easy for a while. I was certain we still had several miles to go before we had to make an exit (which was actually true.) I guess that’s when it happened.  He asked where we were.  I felt completely discombobulated, dehydrated, crabby and self-absorbed.  This usually mild mannered 75 year old woman, who is normally pretty nice, turned into a sort of Mrs. Hyde.  Every ugly hormone connected with the female anatomy unleashed the torrent of rage which had been building since Knoxville.

I won’t go into details, but to say the least, it wasn’t a pretty sight.  After slugging down a bottle of water and pulling myself together, we continued on the road again.  Not much conversation from then on.  I should’ve felt better once I’d gotten all that anger out in the open, but I just felt rotten and guilty for creating such a scene.

We arrived before our daughter, but were greeted by our grandson, Jordan and the cat, Missy, who thinks she’s a dog.  Thus began the next few days of reunion, renewal and restoration.  It was really good to be there.

Next time – our S. Carolina adventure along with pictures.

 

 

 

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EXPRESSION

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ART & POETRY BY PAUL & KATHY BOECHER©

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ORIGINAL ART BY PAUL T. BOECHER & POETRY BY KATHY BOECHER©

When fears and worries are so real,
We sometimes wonder why we feel,
The pangs of deep depression.

The weight’s extreme – we lose all hope,
Our hearts grow sad – for strength we grope,
To lighten this progression.

We look within and try to cope
There are no answers in our scope
It now becomes oppression.

We try so hard to rise above,
We search in vain for any love.
To deal with this obsession.

We cannot do it on our own,
We need one advocate alone,
To bring our full confession.

God takes our hand and leads us out,
Relieves our pain – our fear – our doubt.
He is our best possession.

His love is great – it sees us through
When there is nothing we can do.
Our words hold no expression.

He lifts us from the pit of death.
He died for us to give us breath.
To wipe out our transgression.

 

 

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DELIBERATE OBFUSCATION

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OK, I admit it.  We’re old school.  We took our honeymoon trip using the AAA TripTik maps and tour guides.  So of course the same option was used again last year when we ventured down to S. Carolina for number two grandson’s graduation from high school.  For some strange reason, we were routed through Atlanta.  This year Paul wanted to make sure that didn’t happen again, so while preparing for this road trip, he visited AAA once more and asked for less Interstate driving, more scenery and no Atlanta.  When he returned for the information, the map was identical to the original.  He pointed it out to the agent, who immediately went on the defensive.  I guess that’s how people deal with making mistakes today – they blame it on the computer or someone else. We should’ve known then that this trip would be interesting.

Anyway, when you don’t have the skill or computer savvy to punch an address into your phone, you rely on maps and the old fashioned way. One problem that arises is that you are now glued to the map for much of the trip.  Trying to decipher mile markers from county roads and making sense of the highlighted areas can lead to great confusion and a feeling of forgetting about the scenery and focusing on the directions.  My short term memory was put to the test as well.

As we left Minnesota, there was still snow on the ground.  As we entered Wisconsin, there was still snow in places. Once in the highly boring state of Illinois, it was nothing but flatlands, wind mills, some farm equipment turning dormant soil and miles and miles of not much.  The one state in which no attention was necessary for the map, there was virtually nothing to see.  Go figure.

Once near the border of Illinois and Indiana, we started to see green grass, flowering shrubs and fruit trees within the rows of pines.  There were cows and horses grazing in the fields.  Their young bounced through the meadow, trying out their new legs. This is where the map diverted from the Interstate onto some country roads, lower speed limits a variety of homes and barns.  Small towns popped up, with a great divide in the types of homes and architecture. Wide expanses of green encompassed my vision and I felt as though we were entering paradise.  Thus began the scenic part of the trip.  We stopped after driving for ten hours and spent the night in a motel – not the Bates Motel this time.

Indiana was a brief and fleeting moment on the map and we were soon in Tennessee where green took on a whole new meaning.  There was chartreuse, forest, khaki, emerald and hookers green everywhere, interspersed with purple wisteria..  As I soaked in this panoramic pigmentation, we came to a fork in the road and my eyes had wandered from the map.  “Which exit do I take,?” he asked.  I struggled to find the TripTik, which was now wedged between the seats.  The turn was coming up quickly as I struggled to reach the evasive map.  My asthma kicked in, triggered by the anxiety of not finding the bloody map and not doing my job as navigator.  “Never mind,” he said, “I see the sign.”  It was then that it occurred to me that we should just follow the signs.  Who needs AAA anyhow?

It also made me think that we often go through life in much the same way –  without seeing the forest because of the trees.  We really need to take more time to enjoy the adventure.  We arrived in Nashville on our second ten hour day of driving.  This is where the fun begins.  My sister lives in Nashville and we rarely see each other, so it was the perfect spot to get the cobwebs out of my brain and laugh my head off for a day.

The saga continues tomorrow.  Stay tuned for more adventures of the Aging Road Warriors.

The Road Not Taken By Robert Frost

Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth;
Then took the other, as just as fair,
And having perhaps the better claim,
Because it was grassy and wanted wear;
Though as for that the passing there
Had worn them really about the same,
And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black.
Oh, I kept the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way,
I doubted if I should ever come back.
I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.

 

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ANOTHER STEP ON THE LADDER

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“What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.”  Ralph Waldo Emerson

As we traveled over the span of eight states recently, we were on the road to another graduation. This time number one grandson graduated from North Greenville University on a beautiful S. Carolina morning.  He was among almost 300 graduates and the ceremony was held in the football stadium.  The sun was beginning to crest at 10 AM and I was about to get my first rays of the season.  Unfortunately I would have to allow for more exposure on my right side at a later time.  That would occur on the trip back as I raised my right arm towards the sun blasting in from outside the car.

In the meantime, this class of many cum laude, magna cum laude summa cum laude or simply those who came loudly,  students sat silently as the main speaker gave them a message that radiated to the entire audience.  A true success story in his own right, this man started his career with a stutter.  He turned that into an opportunity to learn and grow throughout the years, but his real success came with the fact that he always kept his perspective in the right place.

It’s such a joy to watch your grandson, who has been blessed with a Christian education throughout his life, graduate from a college that holds the same beliefs that he does.  Throughout Jordan’s life, he was the kid who invited other kids to church with him – the one who read his Bible daily – and the one who put Christ first in all that he encountered in life.  A quiet young man, with a true love of his Savior, he grew into a determined student with a brilliant mind.

With each step up the ladder of success, he’s remained steadfast to the faith that he was introduced to through his baptism, his parents’ love and diligence and the Holy Spirit’s work in him.

As the keynote speaker so aptly spoke in his message, keeping Christ at the center of your walk will determine the kind of success you achieve.  It has nothing to do with wealth, with honor, with intelligence, but everything to do with your relationship with your Savior.  Those other things will follow, if they are in God’s plan for your life.

We are proud of all our grandchildren, because they have placed their trust in our loving God, but also because of the lives they’re leading.  One has already achieved his degree and started his first job in his chosen career.  One is attending Clemson University and taking his finals for his first year this week.  The youngest is about to finish her first year in high school.  All three of them have had the benefit of having parents that realize the importance of giving their children a firm foundation.

That isn’t to say that there won’t be difficulties in these young people’s lives, but it does give them the ammunition to face a future of unknowns.  God will guide them.  He has wonderful plans for each of them, just as He does for each of us.  The blueprint has already been drawn and I’m convinced that the final rung of the ladder leads to heaven for those who place their trust in God.

Thank you, dear God, for blessing my grandchildren with parents who are as concerned for their children’s spiritual welfare as they are for their future worldly success. You are the rock and foundation upon which all things are built and I trust in your continued involvement in their lives.  In Jesus precious name, I pray.  Amen!

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GRANDMA & GRANDPA TIME

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Picture taken last year at Joshua’s high school graduation.  He’s in the middle.  Jordan graduates from college next weekend.  He’s the handsome dude in the white shirt.

Our bags are packed and I’m so ready to go.  The call of warmer weather, green grass and blooming flowers was remote and even impossible last weekend.  A new blanket, about a foot deep, was laid upon the beginnings of spring here in Minnesota.  When we do weather, it’s always bigger than life.  We will soon hit the road to S. Carolina, via a stop in Nashville (my annual visit with my only sibling.)

Our oldest grandson is graduating from college.  He’s the first member of our immediate family to accomplish this task, so it is fitting that we be there to celebrate with him.

We’re fortunate to have had a wonderful relationship with our grandchildren. Usually at this point in their lives, grandkids don’t spend much time with the old fogies.  We’ve just become antiquated versions of what they will become some day.  However, we created a very strong bond from the moment they were all born.  Each grandchild, like every child, has their unique characteristics.  Each will follow their dreams and attain success in what ever they decide to do in the future.  Our job is to encourage and inspire them.

This grandson has always been the studious one.  He often was seen in the wings of a theater production, reading.  More often than not, the book he was reading was the Bible.  For a time I thought he might even become a pastor, but that was not in God’s plan.  We rarely realize what God’s plan for our lives might be until it’s passed us by.  In hindsight we can see His almighty intervention and achieved goals for us, but prior to the actual accomplishments, we seldom know what the outcome will be.  We can, however, trust that God has our best interests in mind and His plan for us will be achieved.

I recall this young man, sitting under our dining room table with our Golden Retriever, Bo.  The two were great friends from the time both of them were pretty much brand new.  This same young lad was so interested in nature and God’s creation and every living thing had a purpose to him.  When I stepped on an ant, he quickly admonished me for taking the life of a living organism.  At the age of five, he went on to write a book about ants, their habitat, their work ethic and their social skills.  The book was illustrated with delightful pictures of ants.  He was the kid on the block that invited everyone to come to church with him.  His paternal grandfather was an evangelist and I’m certain the gene carried on to his grandson.

He would collaborate on plays I wrote – always offering comedic relief during a tense situation.  His voice changed early and it seemed to happen over night.  I don’t recall his voice ever cracking.  He magically turned from a little boy into a young man. By the time he was in high school, he discovered the joy of running.  Up until that time, he had little interest in sports.  I recall a T-ball league he was part of at an early age.  They put him in center field, where absolutely no action occurs and he sat picking dandelions and blowing the seeds to the wind.  Cross country running soon became a passion for him.

His braininess carried over into his studies and he’s always done well in school.  When I referred to him as a walking encyclopedia, his younger brother piped up and said,
“Yes, and I’m just a pocket dictionary – with pages missing.”

There were the hours spent whittling with grandpa, while sitting on a log in the backyard – learning to sketch and paint – enjoying nature.  The silly little performances done by all three of our grandchildren to entertain us.  There were the countless plays he performed in – my special bonding time with him.  There were the “Grandparents Day” events at school, where we saw then progress they made during the year.

Being a grandparent holds a special joy, because we have a chance to make up for missed opportunities we had as parents.  Our grandchildren have learned several things from us.  They know they are loved unconditionally.  They know we still remain active and busy in our lives and that we love the work we do.  They’ve seen us succeed and fail and pick ourselves up and start over again.  They know we are available for them when ever they need us.  They know we won’t judge them – we’re extremely proud of them – we are eternally grateful for them.

So off we go – hitting the road again with my road warrior husband.  I can’t wait!

 

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THE GREATEST OF THESE IS LOVE …

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The power we hold as women cannot be measured in the size of a paycheck.  Women have been holding the keys to true strength from the beginning of time.  When I hear some complain that life isn’t giving them a fair shake, or that they still aren’t equal to men in value, it makes my heart sad.  Much of that thinking is self-inflicted and doesn’t stand up to great testing.

Woman was designed by God to be a partner – a coworker – an encourager – an equal to man.  She was crafted from the rib of the man so she actually was taken from him.  This was God’s original design for His people.  When sin entered the world through disobedience, that partnership, along with our perfect union with God, was broken.  As the years went by and Satan infected the souls of men, there has been a constant power struggle over who is the best.

Throughout history, we’ve seen women trying to outdo men.  They use whatever means they have available to make that happen – whether it be their beauty, charm, seductiveness or lies.  Many women in power would take advantage of their position to put a man down or lay him victim to even the grip of death.

In modern times, the woman has often become the bread winner of the family.  Because of this additional stress on her, she feels used or abused, rather than appreciated or placed on a pedestal.  In addition to bringing home the bacon, she’s still responsible for putting it on the table.  She makes sure children have done their homework, she’s done two loads of wash, made appointments, done the shopping and numerous other jobs.  Who wouldn’t feel oppressed and stressed?

Getting back to that original idea of marriage being a partnership – somehow things have turned upside down.  When we look at our world today it seems that everything is that way.  The laws we used to hold sacred are now simply guidelines for living. They bear no consequences.  Respect for those in authority has deteriorated so much that no one trusts anyone anymore.  Not only that, but the roles of men and women have changed so much over time, there is often no difference in gender.  Maybe it’s time to go back in time. Maybe we should all jump into a time machine and go back to the Garden of Eden.  What was the difference then?

During the past fifty years, I’ve seen a huge change in the role of men in our society.  We’ve always had the womanizers – those who use women to their advantage by letting them do the bulk of the work, while they take the credit for it.  There are those who have been henpecked into believing they have no value in the family.  There are the dolts and idiots we see on the TV screen or in the movies.  Advertising also depicts men as fools.  Fathers now believe that they must become friends with their children, rather than guiding them through this thing called life.  They are not the spiritual leaders they once were in the family.

So where does our power lie as women?  Because God placed both men and women on a level playing field from the beginning, maybe we should start thinking of marriage as an equal opportunity relationship.  Both have jobs to do.  Both have responsibilities to each other and the rest of the family.  Both can work together to make that happen.  As soon as we realize that we have the same goals in mind, the job becomes less of a job and more of partnership.  When we add the most powerful ingredient – love – we have the perfect recipe.

 

 

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STILL WE STAND

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ART & POETRY BY PAUL & KATHY BOECHER©

The old flour mill stands beside the rolling Mississippi River,

An icon, once thriving, once useful –

A place where industry grew a small town into a great city,

A testament to hard work and determination,

Now inoperative, surrounded by the ruins of yesterday,

But still it stands,

We’re much like these old relics from the past,

We’ve served a useful purpose for a lifetime,

Then become tired, sometimes broken down and beat up,

But still we stand,

This building has been repurposed, despite its unproductivity,

Today a museum – a tribute to those who built it –

and served the community around it,

We also stand as antiques, old fashioned, decrepit, useless.

But we continue to have a purpose,

Life continues,

We go on,

We see that we still have value to society,

Growing old doesn’t have to mean death,

We can live on through what we’ve given as a lifetime legacy,

We live with purpose until the very end,

Where we’ll  continue to stand.

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SILENCE CAN BE GOLDEN

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The past couple of weeks have been a vague meshing of thoughts, highs and lows, energy and exhaustion.  Mix in a measure of illness and thoughts of spending your last moments of life and you have a concoction of poison which would destroy even the strongest of heart.  For the past week, this has been my walk.  Whenever we work hard to achieve something good there are bound to be moments of doubt – fear – helplessness – failure – but on the other hand, a job well done – instilling some learning into young minds – building others up – finally accomplishing your goal.

During this past week, my mind has been far from putting words on paper.  All I could do was think about getting physically well again.  As I age, I should know I can’t do the things I was capable of years ago.  I should accept that fact and try not to bite off more than I can chew.  There is something within me that has a hard time with that.  Maybe it’s a strong work ethic – maybe it’s wanting to be useful – maybe it’s insanity.  Whatever the case, I felt it best to keep my pen dry for a while.  Sometimes when we don’t feel well or are overwhelmed, it’s best to be quiet.

My mind is working on some new ideas for my blog and hopefully this time off will allow me to formulate that.  In the meantime, I’m re-posting a few and sharing some of Paul’s art.  No winter funnies for the moment.  The snow is flying up here and it isn’t the least bit funny anymore.

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NO SMALL PARTS

quote-remember-there-are-no-small-parts-only-small-actors-constantin-stanislavski-28-10-73Where do you fit in to the scheme of things? I always tell my young performers that each of them is an important piece of the story we’re trying to portray – without their participation, the story is incomplete, no matter how small the part may seem.

Each of us is part of something much bigger than we are. If you consider how a business runs, a government, an orchestra or anything that involves multiple talents and abilities, you will see that each one involved in that enterprise has an important contribution to make.

Some of us have great organizational skills while others are more inclined to handling the people management issues. Some folks have wonderful visual abilities and can create ideas just like that. Some are more capable with numbers or the mechanics of things.

What ever skill you have, don’t ever underestimate or underplay the importance of your part in the big picture. It’s up to you to discover where your talents lie and then make good use them.

Do you know that God knew exactly what you would become long before you were even conceived? He has a plan for each one of us and He wants to partner with us to accomplish the work He has set before us.

We all have the same opportunities in life, whether we’re rich or poor. We can overcome adversity, disabilities, having dreams shattered. We can accomplish amazing things, but we can’t do it alone. As soon as we recognize that we are part of something greater than us, doors will open – changes will occur – relationships will improve and all of this will draw us closer to the one who made it all possible in the first place.

Walk on, with God and you’ll never walk alone.

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COLORLESS

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POETRY BY KATHY BOECHER©

My world has turned to black and white, enveloped in ice and snow,

Birds longing to sing their arias. feel temperatures soar below,

Calendars say it should be spring, but heaven has other plans,

An abundance of snow up there is now falling on our lands,

Covering waiting tulip buds, freezing out newborn sprouts,

This difficult winter weather, is causing us to act out,

Deceivingly warming climate is nothing more than fake words,

The thought of a global warming, seems absolutely absurd,

Looking on the wintry landscape, it makes me just wonder why,

We don’t have spring until summer and Christmas should be in July.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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JULIE’S FRIDAY FUNNY

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It seems you and I both need a little range time.  The blogging world has taken a back seat to being sick for me and you taking on a new role in life.  Time to saddle a horse and go for a ride.

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GROUNDED

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ART & POETRY BY PAUL & KATHY BOECHER©

A tangled mass of long spindly fingers, reach out desperately,,

Longing for the life giving, thirst quenching desire to survive,

Roots, once deeply entrenched, now surface and meander through the muck,

Facing obstacles unknown, yet pushing forward, yearning for more,

Even though submerged in hopelessness,

Life can thrive when the roots run deep,

All the tangles, obstacles and bumps in the road will lessen,

When they are nurtured, loved and preserved by their Creator.

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COMFORT

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ART & POETRY FROM PAUL & KATHY BOECHER©

Encased with brush and branches, a refuge holds you tight,

The world is far away, you’re hidden from its sight,

The fear you hold inside, adrenaline excites,

But comfort still you harbor there,  it holds you from your fright,

So quiet you remain at bay, hanging on with all your might,

The clouded, purple skies of heaven turn into endless night,

You know you can’t hide forever.  Your dreams fade and lose delight,

He knows your every move.  From heaven sees your plight,

He sent His Son to save you and take away sin’s bite,

He changes hearts and minds.  He’s turned dark into light,

Your life is in His strong right hand, He’ll always hold you tight.

 

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MY CRAZY FAMILY

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Everyone has at least one funny story to share about a relative of theirs. Maybe those people don’t event realize you feel this way.  My family happens to be full of great characters – real people with interesting responses to each other and situations.  My story about my great grandmother appears in this edition of the Chicken Soup book, “My Crazy Family,” along with stories from other contributors.

I am proud to be on that list of contributors and hope it’s the start of another career path for me.  You can purchase the book now online at Amazon.com, Barnes & Noble and other book stores.  We can’t choose our relatives, but we sure can make the most them, when it’s time to tell a story.

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