We ‘ve known each other now for 57 years – more than a life time – a gift from God. When you pledge your life to another it should be taken seriously, but there needs to be tons of laughter in this partnership or you will soon find plenty of reasons to walk away from it.
There are times when it’s really hard to find the humor – especially in the tough times. When a thriving business fails with the economy – when you face difficult health issues – when you wonder if you will have enough money to eat – when you can’t find a job that suits you – when things are so upside down that you find very little to laugh about – how do you face these things?
Fortunately I have a husband who still likes to “dance” from his place on the couch to the kitchen to dish up some ice cream. He beeps when he comes down the steps, because he has to do so backwayrds. He tells jokes that take a while to figure out because they have so many layers to them. He sings like Donald Duck from time to time and that really cracks me up. He has a great laugh and his face lights up when he smiles. I’m not nearly as quick witted as he, but occasionally I can get a good laugh out of him too. I think a sense of humor is really an important part of a good marriage. I also believe that having God as the head of our house has been the glue which binds us together. He is the most important element of our life together.
There have been many books written on what it takes to have a good marriage. There really is not one good answer for that. We still have spats from time to time, but they usually end pretty fast, since we don’t have the physical energy that we used to have. Spats don’t usually result in anything good either, so we just cut to the apologies.