Proverbs 19:13  “A foolish child is a father’s ruin, and a quarrelsome wife is like the constant dripping of a leaky roof.”

I kind of bristle when I read some of the proverbs.  Especially the verse above.  I don’t consider myself a nag, but there have been times when I’ve felt like one.  Maybe nagging fades when we get older.  We no longer have the pep or the spunk to speak up or we’ve learned that it’s better to be patient in our waiting.  Whatever the case may be, I feel like this is a definite slam against women in general.  The truth is we are different than men in more ways than one.

When mankind fell into sin, all kinds of changes occurred.  Not only did humans realize that they made a huge mistake, but there would be consequences for their disobedience.  They would no longer have the gift of paradise.  They would experience all the negative emotions that would lead to future disobedience.  Men were assigned the task of taking care of the animals and the earth.  After sin, the task became hard work and created aching bones, muscles and sweat.  For women, they would endure pain in the whole child bearing process.  Today those issues have been dealt with in not having children, birth control and abortion.  All of which are forms of trying to take God’s place and doing things our own way.

Men are workers, hunters and gatherers, as the saying goes.  Women are meant to be caretakers of the home and family.  They are to keep the home fires burning while man supplies the wood.  So sometimes, when you run out of wood, a need is created which must be addressed.  That’s when the nagging comes in, I guess.  What starts as a simple requests is responded to with subjective hearing.  When the request must be repeated a number of times it becomes nagging.

Times have certainly changed with all the modern conveniences we now have to tend to our needs.  Still those inner parts of our makeup will often surface.  Today, many men are the naggers and the wives are the bread winners.  Today, you may not even know who is who anymore.  Once again, the human race is trying to play God in almost ever area of our existence.  They want to control the weather by spending billions of dollars to create alternate forms of energy.  They can choose whether they have a child or not.  They can abort a child almost to full term call it choice rather than murder.  Every form of decadent behavior is deemed being a success.  In fact, the world today is a constant dripping that seems bent on taking God’s place.  Eventually, we will be able to determine when end of life should come.  The list of man’s interference in God’s divine intervention is endless and will be until Jesus returns again.

We must remember who the boss is.  It’s God alone that determines when a hurricane is necessary to stir up the waters and balance nature.  It is God’s hand that turns a tiny seed into a plant that will feed many.  It is God who brings about life and determines when it will end.  Have we forgotten to trust in His will for our lives?  Instead of complaining (nagging) about who is going to fix things, let’s return to prayer for God’s omniscience in our lives.  He’s the only One who can repair the mess we’ve all created.  Oh, and by the way, He did.



As I reach the end of my years, I find I have a lot of good information stored up in this old decrepit mind of mine. If I don't write it all down, it may vanish and no one will have the advantage of my thoughts. This is why this blog exists. I love the Lord, Jesus with all my heart and soul. I know I'm undeserving of all He's done for me, but I also know that His love is beyond my comprehension. I've always wanted to write. I never kept diaries, but tucked my thoughts in my head for future reference. I use them now in creating stories, plays, poetry and my blog. I continue to learn every day. I believe the compilation of our time spent with God will have huge affect on the way we live. I know I'm a sinner and I need a Savior. I have One through Jesus, Christ. My book, "Stages - a memoir," is about the seven stages of life from the perspective of a woman. It addresses all the things girls and women go through in life as they travel it with Jesus, and it is available on
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  1. oneta hayes says:

    Love you emphasis on “it is God.” Yes, it is God who even allows one to murder -infant, elderly, in between – and it is God who chooses the discipline. Reminds me of the husband who says, “Just quit nagging, I told you six months ago that I will do it, and I will.” 😀

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