When you get to be my age, this is a question you usually don’t ask much anymore.  If you’re asked the question, expect a long drawn out answer which you had no intention or the hours required to hear.

In the world today, we can post an emoji to show how we feel, without going into a lot of detail.  Sometimes those emoji tell it all and it takes no time to spill your true feelings.  You may have a plethora of emoji which indicate a true state of confusion.  However, we are not a people of little, yellow, round faces with various emotions pasted on them.  At least not yet.

Getting older, as I and most of my friends are, when asked, “how are you doing?” the answers can be as simple as, “I’m still horizontal,” or “Still standing.”  They can be as witty as “At least I’m above ground.”  If you’re told, “It’s good to see you,” you can always respond with, “It’s better to be seen than viewed.”

Enough of the silly comebacks.  If we were to really tell someone how we feel, we would need more than a few hours to describe everything that’s going on in our lives.  Most of the time, we’re afraid to ask for that very reason.  No one really wants to know how you’re doing.

When this phrase was first spoken, it must’ve been in all sincerity.  The person asking would wait for a response, perhaps because the person had been in poor health before their meeting.  I assume as time went by and people got tired of enduring the long answers, it just developed into a catch phrase and eventually wound up becoming the slang, “How ya doin’,” which is more like a simple greeting today.

These words have gone by the wayside and seem almost uncaring and meaningless.  The same can be true of the phrase, “I’ll pray for you.”  How often have you said that as a catch phrase or cop out for someone who is going through difficulty?  How many times have you sincerely prayed for that person?  How many have stopped what they were doing to actually pray with that person?

When we throw words around, they should have something solid to support behind them.  In all our prayers and petitions, we should be sincere and honest with those we are praying for, otherwise it becomes another meaningless set of words.

Prayer is our communication with God.  This has been granted to us by the work Jesus did and what the Holy Spirit continues to do within us.  This gift is our way to go directly to the source with all our needs and cares.  We need to mean it when we say, “I’m praying for you.”

“And when you pray, do not heap up empty phrases as the Gentiles do, for they think that they will be heard for their many words.”  Matthew 6:7


As I reach the end of my years, I find I have a lot of good information stored up in this old decrepit mind of mine. If I don't write it all down, it may vanish and no one will have the advantage of my thoughts. This is why this blog exists. I love the Lord, Jesus with all my heart and soul. I know I'm undeserving of all He's done for me, but I also know that His love is beyond my comprehension. I've always wanted to write. I never kept diaries, but tucked my thoughts in my head for future reference. I use them now in creating stories, plays, poetry and my blog. I continue to learn every day. I believe the compilation of our time spent with God will have huge affect on the way we live. I know I'm a sinner and I need a Savior. I have One through Jesus, Christ. My book, "Stages - a memoir," is about the seven stages of life from the perspective of a woman. It addresses all the things girls and women go through in life as they travel it with Jesus, and it is available on
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10 Responses to HOW ARE YOU?

  1. Yes, how are you doing today?

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  2. Wally Fry says:

    I’m going to try that sometime; when somebody says pray for me just stop right there and pray with them! What a great idea!

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  3. Years ago I met an acquaintance in the grocery store. She asked how I was and I told her the truth that I had just been let go from my job. She stopped right there, put her arm around me and prayed over me. I will never forget it. She lived her faith with intention.

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    • says:

      So cool. There’s nothing better than sincere prayer, especially when more than one is praying ❤️


  4. hatrack4 says:

    When our pastor came to the church, his answer was “Blessed.” I told him of a team of evangelists that I was a part in the early 70s. The leader said, “Stop saying Blessed among each other. We are genuinely interested in how you are doing IN THIS WORLD.” After that, we started asking “How are you doing in this world?” The pastor still said, “Blessed.” And after each cancer treatment that leaves him drained and in tremendous pain, “Blessed.”

    And I am glad that you are on your feet and still alive. Take care.

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