It seems this little month lacks in number of days, but there are plenty of things to celebrate. It’s been designated National Heart Month, Black History Month, National Weddings Month and it boasts of such celebrations as Ground Hog Day, Mardi Gras, Presidents Day, Valentines Day and believe it or not – Don’t Cry Over Spilled Milk Day.
Sharing your love with another person is something unrestricted to one day or one month out of the year. It should be an every day occurrence. Unfortunately, we have days when we don’t always feel that soft, warm and fuzzy, Hallmark kind of love. Some days there are bills to pay and not enough money to cover them. Some days we get upset over little things, like how the toothpaste is dispensed from a tube or dirty laundry laying on the floor. Some days we get tired of the same old stories, the silly jokes, the ridiculous demands and the rut we seem to have created for ourselves.
Love has to do with sharing time, thoughts, plans and goals, dreams, words, a special touch, a kiss, a hug and time. It isn’t easy. If you look at God’s advice on love in the Bible verse 1 Corinthians 13:4-5 you will soon realize that it takes a great deal of work. We often don’t think of it that way when we first fall in love. Our thoughts are on how we feel rather than the other person’s feelings. This often carries over into our relationships as they grow and we come to realize that being selfish is the most important trait to get rid of if you’re to succeed.
Love takes patience, which requires us to put the other person first. Love takes time to develop. Love at first sight rarely happens, but even when it does, it must be nurtured along the way. Love requires kindness and caring for the other person. This doesn’t mean we put them on a pedestal, but we share in the relationship – each bringing their own special seasoning to the table. Love cannot let pride get in the way. When that happens, we’ve lost track of the other person and their needs and put ourselves on a pedestal. Love does not keep a record of wrongdoings. If so, the relationship would soon crumble and fall apart. We need to work through the wrongs and the good times together.
However it’s more than a partnership. Love was first shown by God when He created this earth. He made perfection out of nothing and then created man to take care of it. The woman was created from man and was designed to be not only a companion, but an extension of himself. When we place God at the head of our relationships, we have the true meaning of love. He loved us first and continues to love usthroughout eternity.