As most of you know, I’m losing my hearing so I miss a lot of the conversations that go on around me.  I can’t really enjoy a television show, because it’s hard to determine the plot when you can’t hear the words.  Recently I switched to closed captioning, but even that can lead to misinformation. For example, as I watched the news one day, they were talking about a person who was resigning from her professional position. The announcer said she had been on the job for six months. The caption said, “she had been on the JOHN for six months. I guess I would resign too under those circumstances.

My husband is starting to experience some hearing loss as well, so our conversations have become not only interesting, but at times comical. Since we are locked up together for the duration, we have no choice but to pay close attention when we talk or we miss the entire flow of the conversation. This can also lead to one person raising their voice while the other feels like they’re being yelled at.

A dear friend of mine gifted me with a set of hearing aids that once belonged to her husband. They’re just like new. I’m hoping to figure out how to use them, but until that time I will have to learn to read lips, continue to laugh at the closed captioning or just nod my head in agreement and hope I’m not agreeing to something I’ll regret.

With all the things we currently have on our plates, it seems like a cacophony of noise that is often indecipherable. Politicians are vying for our attention. Health experts are on hand with new ways to avoid getting a virus, reminding us to get our flu shots and even conducting yearly physicals virtually. Our phone conversations have changed into emails and texting. Our discussions turn into arguments. All of this because we aren’t really listening at all.

Friends are becoming enemies. Relatives aren’t speaking to each other. Communication skills have turned into one sided conversations with no thought for another person’s opinion.

Listening is different than hearing and is one of those things that can be selective.  We can choose what we want to hear.  We can sift through the muck and pick up what we hoped to hear.  We can ignore the really important things and focus only on the things that apply to us.

The art of being a good listener is slowly fading from our existence. We’re being fed so much information electronically, that it’s almost impossible to listen.  Our minds act like sieves, sorting through it all and trying to make sense of it.

Unfortunately, when we fail to really listen, we can miss some important stuff.  A child may have some important words to share about being teased at school.  A teen may have feelings of depression or worthlessness.  An older child is struggling with decisions about their future and you have tuned them out in deference to a sporting event or the news.

When your life becomes so filled with outside distractions, it’s time to sit down and look at what God has to say about listening.

James 1:19 “Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger”

Proverbs 12:15 “The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, but a wise man listens to advice. “

Ecclesiastes 3:7 “A time to tear, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak.”

Proverbs 18:13 “”If one gives an answer before he hears, it is his folly and shame.”

When we take the time to actually listen to someone, we’re opening our ears to true discernment. Take time today to listen with an open mind. Don’t jump to the conclusion that only your opinion matters. Our country was founded on many ideas and innovations. If we lose the ability to really listen to others, we may possibly miss the answers we’re looking for.



As I reach the end of my years, I find I have a lot of good information stored up in this old decrepit mind of mine. If I don't write it all down, it may vanish and no one will have the advantage of my thoughts. This is why this blog exists. I love the Lord, Jesus with all my heart and soul. I know I'm undeserving of all He's done for me, but I also know that His love is beyond my comprehension. I've always wanted to write. I never kept diaries, but tucked my thoughts in my head for future reference. I use them now in creating stories, plays, poetry and my blog. I continue to learn every day. I believe the compilation of our time spent with God will have huge affect on the way we live. I know I'm a sinner and I need a Savior. I have One through Jesus, Christ. My book, "Stages - a memoir," is about the seven stages of life from the perspective of a woman. It addresses all the things girls and women go through in life as they travel it with Jesus, and it is available on
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2 Responses to ARE YOU LISTENING?

  1. Well, Kathy, welcome to the club! I have had to wear hearing aids for the last 10 years and closed captioning is a must, even when we can go to the movies.

    I would caution you from using a pair of hearing aids that have not been adjusted to the correct frequency that you need. Costco offers free hearing eams and I prefer their brand, but most Medicare plans offer hearing aids that are cheaper. Just send the RX from Costco to their provider.

    My wife (who I think is in need of hearing aids now) and I have found that to carry on any conversation in depth, we need to be seated facing each other.


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  2. Read this to Gregory, my hearing impaired spouse who whole heartedly agreed— and told me to tell you hearing aids aren’t with a d@$n as he’s had many pairs-expensive ones — and our conversations lead to much frustration as understanding is a mixed bag!

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