“Any woman who chooses to behave like a full human being should be warned that the armies of the status quo will treat her as something of a dirty joke. That’s their natural and first weapon. She will need her sisterhood” Gloria Steinem.
I was a teenager when Gloria Steinem came on the scene. I was one of the old school, who enjoyed being treated like a lady – having doors opened for me – being complimented for the way I looked – not having to pay for my own ticket to the movies.
Now that image has been tucked deeply away into a dark closet, filled with other lies told during that “coming of age” era. Women were taught that not wearing a bra would liberate them from the bondage men had claimed over them for years. Burning their lingerie would make them even stronger. They were told there should be no boundaries on what they could do. They were also told to use whatever wiles they could to make their point.
As those years of sexual freedom progressed, it seems to me the idea of being a woman meant you had to be as combatant as any male you encounter. Women needed to prove themselves equal in every way, because they felt dominated by men in the workplace, the political arena, the entertainment industry and any other facets of life.
The thing I never understood, is that God created both male and female as equals right from the start. They would work side by side, love each other and work through difficulties. Why did there have to be this war and so much anger and hate?
A woman was led to believe she was being sexually harassed if someone paid her a compliment – that she would have to become part of a sisterhood for protection. She was told she was invincible – that wearing revealing clothing empowered her. Slowly and insidiously, women were being taught that they were nothing more than slaves to men. Burning bras and becoming an exhibitionist is not my idea of being empowered. In my opinion that’s just using your body to get your way. There’s another word for it – prostitution.
God talks about the kind of women we should be in Proverbs 31. If you read the entire chapter, you’ll see that God puts women on a pedestal. They should be honored for the work they do, taking care of the family, tending to the household chores and working outside the home as well. There must be encouragement for her entrepreneurial skills. She shall be able to work for a living. In this chapter we also see the respect men ought to have towards women. She should be praised for her work and honored because of it. God created man and women as equals. There is nothing in that chapter that degrades, humiliates or enslaves women.
Today there are countless women coming out of the closet, revealing things that happened to them 20-30 years ago. Men are soon going to be afraid to speak to women in the future. Because of this power play, the competition is greater than it’s ever been. It has nothing to do with which sex is better. It has everything to do with manipulation, accusation, fear of having your reputation tarnished, being looked at as a sexual predator or simply becoming emasculated. Accusations are not always false, but it seems to be another ploy in the feminist toolbox.
Men are slowly losing their ability to lead, not only in the workplace, but at home and church as well. The family needs a strong spiritual head and so do our churches. When leadership fails in those areas, things begin to decay and die.
I’m very concerned for those who are being falsely accused. I also side with women who have been taken advantage of sexually and were afraid to tell anyone when it happened. The “me too” movement has brought much of that to light.
It isn’t unusual to wonder about the truth of these accusations, when they’re timed to come forth at very critical moments. I wonder how many women have actually been forced into a sexual situation. We can all probably look at one thing that happened in our personal history, that would qualify for sexual harassment or abuse. But if it’s so commonplace, why are there so many who haven’t had these experiences?
The feminist movement brought about change. Some of the change was necessary, but in the process, men were put to task. Why does it have to be about black and white, life and death, men or women? We are all equal in God’s eyes.