As our children grow from infants to toddlers, you will see a lot of your own habits and idiosyncrasies come to life in them. This is a time to really be a good role model for them. They’re like little copycats and will often mimic what you say and do. They’re forming their own personalities based on what they see and hear from you. That’s a heavy load to carry right there. As a parent, you have more than a physical obligation to these little ones. How they turn out is dependent on their early years of experience and exploration. I’m not trying to lay guilt on you before you even go through this, but it is a fact you should be aware of.

Having raised three children and watching them turn into responsible adults is really an accomplishment, but not one I can take credit for. Each generation has its own set of problems to deal with. Whether it’s a turn in sexual behavior or drug abuse; a shift in the course of politics; a surge in unethical behavior; greed, violence, bullying – we as parents have a tough row to hoe.  When you partner with your Creator in the process, it makes the job less difficult. Here are ten suggestions to help you in this difficult, trying, sometimes frustrating and anxious walk, which I hope will give you some insight into this wonderfully exciting adventure:

  1. From little on, let them know about God’s love for them. Build a strong spiritual base. This is the foundation that will see them through anything.
  2.  Shape their moral values by setting a good example.
  3.  Encourage and support them, but don’t build them up to the point of no return.
  4.  Let them know that you have expectations of them – set down the rules as soon as they are old enough to understand and then follow through with them
  5. Trust is something that takes time to build. With our children, it should begin on day one. They are totally reliant on us. We need to return that trust to them as they grow older. By doing so, we are also trusting that what we have taught them has actually sunk in.
  6.  Let them know that when we are angry with something they have done, it doesn’t change the love we have for them.
  7.  Be vigilant about their physical well being. Watch for signs that things aren’t right and talk to your children about them. Always keep the lines of communication open.
  8.  You are not your child’s buddy, you are his parent. Too often we give more material things to our children than we need to. They need our love, understanding, guidance and security – not our stuff.
  9.  There are others out there that are experiencing the same things you are. It doesn’t make the job easier, but it helps to know that you aren’t alone.
  10.  Trust in God’s direction for your child. Pray for them. Teach them God’s teachings through the daily study and encouragement of His Word. With God at your side all things are possible – even parenting.

“Even a child makes himself known by his acts, by whether his conduct is pure and upright,” Proverbs 20:11 ESV



As I reach the end of my years, I find I have a lot of good information stored up in this old decrepit mind of mine. If I don't write it all down, it may vanish and no one will have the advantage of my thoughts. This is why this blog exists. I love the Lord, Jesus with all my heart and soul. I know I'm undeserving of all He's done for me, but I also know that His love is beyond my comprehension. I've always wanted to write. I never kept diaries, but tucked my thoughts in my head for future reference. I use them now in creating stories, plays, poetry and my blog. I continue to learn every day. I believe the compilation of our time spent with God will have huge affect on the way we live. I know I'm a sinner and I need a Savior. I have One through Jesus, Christ. My book, "Stages - a memoir," is about the seven stages of life from the perspective of a woman. It addresses all the things girls and women go through in life as they travel it with Jesus, and it is available on
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  1. ken riddles says:

    Sound advice indeed!

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  2. Kathy, your suggestions offer a framework for any parent to follow. Your first point sets the table for the next eight to follow. The final step ties it all together with God at the center. My wife and I are blessed with a blended family of five daughters, 11 grandchildren, and one great-grandchild. We pray and give thanks every day for God’s nurturing presence in their lives.

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    • says:

      Our children are our greatest heritage. It’s up to us to make sure they have the love of God in their lives. Thanks for your comments.

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