This week I’ll be turning my attention to marriage. 56 years ago this coming Saturday, Paul & I will celebrating 56 years of wedded bliss. Well maybe all 56 of those years weren’t like the stuff of which Hallmark movies are made. Maybe the ideal ivory towered fairy tale is just a wish for a perfect marriage. In actuality, marriage consists of more ups and downs than a roller coaster. Many times the downs outweigh the ups, but the ride is always exciting.

We often go into a marriage with no real preparation for what the future will hold. We aren’t told that there will be mistakes, misunderstandings, mishaps, misinterpretations and miscalculations. We believe that joining two lives in marriage might become a bondage of sorts, thinking only of the negative side of that word. We fail to realize that when we make a life commitment to someone other than ourselves, we’re letting go and making sacrifices, but the result is a freedom you can never achieve alone.

Marriage may be conceived as the perfect ending of the love story. The fairy tale happily ever after comes to mind. No one tells you that you will be sharing your life with a stranger. Little things like how they put toothpaste on their toothbrush – leaving the toilet seat up -habits you didn’t know about before you made that promise to love, honor and serve. Than there are the bigger things – the loss of a lifetime of work, the illnesses that plague us, financial worries, unfaithfulness, keeping secrets – all which lead to further difficulties.

56 years ago people didn’t wait forever to get married. They often did it with little planning. Some went to extremes and had huge, expensive events, while others chose to elope and save the money. In that time, the vows taken at the altar meant something. The joining of a man and woman was one of the first gifts God gave to mankind. It’s considered one of the most important sacraments within the church – a thing of mysterious and sacred significance; a religious symbol.

When we give ourselves in marriage, we aren’t losing, but gaining something in return. We become one body – even though we still have our own opinions, hopes and dreams. We shouldn’t consider this institution as a ball and chain, but a freedom to be part of a joint venture – an adventure, filled with highs and lows, but always abounding in love.

About atimetoshare.me

As I reach the end of my years, I find I have a lot of good information stored up in this old decrepit mind of mine. If I don't write it all down, it may vanish and no one will have the advantage of my thoughts. This is why this blog exists. I love the Lord, Jesus with all my heart and soul. I know I'm undeserving of all He's done for me, but I also know that His love is beyond my comprehension. I've always wanted to write. I never kept diaries, but tucked my thoughts in my head for future reference. I use them now in creating stories, plays, poetry and my blog. I continue to learn every day. I believe the compilation of our time spent with God will have huge affect on the way we live. I know I'm a sinner and I need a Savior. I have One through Jesus, Christ. My book, "Stages - a memoir," is about the seven stages of life from the perspective of a woman. It addresses all the things girls and women go through in life as they travel it with Jesus, and it is available on Amazon.com.
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  1. hatrack4 says:

    My wife and I are torn on the expensive wedding versus eloping. She put together a very simple, unencumbered wedding, and it still drained her savings. And two honeymoons before the end of the year, and we were in debt. I wish I had your graphic for my thing on God’s Perfect Marriage a couple of weeks ago. Ours isn’t perfect, but we make it work. I have seen the “stubborn married couples” that stayed together, but nothing worked other than they did not kill each other. You and Paul are blessed.

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    • atimetoshare.me says:

      We are indeed. We give each other space, we respect what the other has to contribute, we usually work together on things as well, but lately I feel like he’s been doing all the work. I have grown to depend on him so much because my health has been so tenuous this year. WE continue to be blessed though because God is still in charge.

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