It used to be that hugs were natural.  Now we must be careful not to offend or give the wrong message.  Over my lifetime, I’ve seen a gradual loss in the show of any kind of physical affection in our society.  We’re told to be conscious of how others feel if we show any outward feelings – especially when it comes to children or vulnerable individuals.

I come from a long line of huggers.  Most of my aunts and uncles had no problem with planting a big one on each of us.  Part of it was a show of love.  Part was because we hadn’t seen each other for a while.  Mostly it was because it was how we were raised.

Unfortunately, times have changed.  With all the issues of sexual harassment, improper touching and the secrets held behind closed doors in the church as well as schools has made it nearly impossible to show someone you care by giving them a hug.  It’s really sad in a way, because we all need reassurance from time to time.  We’re slowly losing some of our means of communicating by not being able to hug.

I’m all for being conscious of others’ feelings.  I really wouldn’t want to create a feeling of insecurity in another individual by an unwanted hug.  It’s hard for us old fogies to give up what once was a sincere show of caring, rather a politically incorrect action.  Now we must wait for someone else to initiate the hug.  If that’s the case, we’ll soon all be waiting and no hugs will happen.  What a sad thought.



As I reach the end of my years, I find I have a lot of good information stored up in this old decrepit mind of mine. If I don't write it all down, it may vanish and no one will have the advantage of my thoughts. This is why this blog exists. I love the Lord, Jesus with all my heart and soul. I know I'm undeserving of all He's done for me, but I also know that His love is beyond my comprehension. I've always wanted to write. I never kept diaries, but tucked my thoughts in my head for future reference. I use them now in creating stories, plays, poetry and my blog. I continue to learn every day. I believe the compilation of our time spent with God will have huge affect on the way we live. I know I'm a sinner and I need a Savior. I have One through Jesus, Christ. My book, "Stages - a memoir," is about the seven stages of life from the perspective of a woman. It addresses all the things girls and women go through in life as they travel it with Jesus, and it is available on
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5 Responses to HUGS

  1. hatrack4 says:

    Once when my wife was leaving church, the preacher held out his hand. She said, “I will not accept that. I need a hug.” He laughed and gladly hugged her.

    Yesterday, we were sitting in the sanctuary. A couple that we had not seen for a long time walked in and sat in front of us. The wife has had lower body issues and it is painful to get to church. Her husband had been our son’s best friend in the choir, despite the 60 something years difference in ages. My wife asked our son’s old friend if the arthritis made it difficult to shake hands. He replied, “I wouldn’t know. I’m a hugger.”

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  2. Wally Fry says:

    Not a hugger; it’s a struggle for me. I am seriously about personal space. Church has made me better, though

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  3. Holy hugs and kisses are what I was taught.

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  4. davidkitz says:

    Sending hugs across the miles.

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