When you consider having a family you must be prepared for tons of frustrations –  giving up everything you enjoy doing for yourself – keeping one eye opened while you sleep – never getting the laundry done – a sink full of dishes – a messy house – not having enough time or money to get the things you used to take for granted – not having the energy to do those things anyway.  Have I convinced you not to have children?

Consider this: you’ll be raising this helpless individual in a world full of anger, hatred, hopelessness and despair.  Chances are that child will not make it into college unless you are sold into slavery to pay the bill or he will be left with a mountain of debt before he graduates.  Of course maybe by then the government will be footing the bill.  By that time, society will have degenerated so much that families will be a thing of the past.

I digress or I’ve actually fallen off the deep end!

However we don’t always think of parenting as a work in progress.  It’s more of a learn as you go process.  No parenting manual will tell you about the feelings you’re experiencing as you mop vomit off the floor or hold a child with a fever.  No one lets you know that your trips to the grocery store will now include stuffing more convenience meals into your cart and feeling guilty about it.  You soon learn that your tears come more often and you’re on an emotional roller coaster most of your waking hours.  All the parenting magazines neglect to say how your child will immediately act up, the minute you sit down.  You have to discover on your own that your life is no longer your own.

With all that being said, I can highly recommend having a family.  It is one of the most rewarding, challenging, educational, foolish things you will ever do.  By the way, my parents did move a lot when I was young, but I always found them!


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6 Responses to PARENTING ADVICE?

  1. mzpresser says:

    Oh Kathy what a beautiful piece and so needed today. I feel all of these emotions having twin 5 year Olds and a 4 year old and a full time very demanding job. Sometimes I feel like I am straight up crazy and sometimes I feel guilty for just wanting time to myself. When I am away from them I ache for them and when I’m with them sometimes I want to scream. For all the messiness that it brings, it is the most beautiful thing I have ever done. God used those kids to save my life. Thank you for making me feel normal today and not alone in my insanity 🙂

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    • atimetoshare says:

      I think most mothers go through the same thing you’re experiencing. I know I did and I didn’t have the stress of a job outside the home. My daughters do and I see some of the same frustrations in them. This is a most amazing gift from God and we struggle with it like everything in this life, but you are doing the best you can. I often think we beat ourselves up needlessly in this world of ours. God loves us no matter what. How awesome is that? Glad you were lifted by these meager words.

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  2. Thank you for your honest and accurate assessment of parenthood.

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    • atimetoshare says:

      Like all of God’s creatures, we are works in progress – especially parents. Thanks for your comment.


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