This time of year there are many platitudes floating around regarding motherhood and the fact that these wonderful people should be exalted to a pedestal. Being a mom is a life-changing, life-lasting and life-giving experience. It doesn’t end with the labor in the delivery room. The work just begins there.
Moms will soon find they are no longer the center of their own universe. Once that new life enters yours, you become totally committed to it. A mother puts her child first. A mother’s love is unconditional. It can be inspiring. She can cause mountains to move with her encouragement. She can take pride in a job well done. She can leap tall buildings in a single bound. Wait – wrong super hero. Sounds fabulous, right? Anyone would want the job, right? What you don’t always hear about may have you thinking twice before entering into this facet of life.
Moms must be available 24/7. An appointment to the spa is out of the question. Your life will now consist of changing diapers and wiping little bottoms. You will be expected to listen to every word they have to say and every demand they make. You will transport them to every sporting event, concert, dance recital, or drama class until they are old enough to drive themselves. Then you will pray incessantly until they return home.
You will stay up once they’re tucked in bed so you can make a dent in the laundry – only to fall asleep before the spin cycle is completed. You will shop for their clothes until they tell you that you don’t have any style. You will provide nutritious meals, unless time forces you into a drive through. You will train them to be outstanding students, citizens and members of the community. You will cry every time they get hurt. You will defend them if anyone says a negative thing about them. You will put them before anything you need or do. You will give up and clean their rooms after you’ve asked them to do it at least a hundred times. You will support them, encourage them, believe in them. You will run into surprises as you do.
You will get angry with them. You will be discouraged with their behavior. You will wait your turn to use the bathroom only to be joined by them during that precious quiet time, because they want to be with you. You will read to them, sing to them, teach them, praise them, thank them, be proud of them even when they don’t succeed. You will discipline them even when you don’t want to. You will set rules for them even when they don’t want them.
What are the benefits? You will see sparkles in their eyes when they understand things. You will get goose bumps when they score their first goal. You’ll watch a life develop and become more than you ever dreamed it would. You will melt when they put their arms around you and say, “I love you, mom.” You will be proud, joyful, amazed and extremely gratified for a job well done. You will be thankful for the blessed opportunity to help create a life and watch it grow into an adult who may go through the same satisfying experience. You will always love them and they will love you back – because you are a mom.